long distance relationship

.... are difficult for most of us. For ALL of us, I shall say. Even to someone who were not in a long distance, got distant from their partner for 2 days or so.

They would missed the other-half dreadfully. Can't sleep. Can't eat. Everything seem improper.

The BIG issues or problems for long distance relationship are

1. TRUST ISSUES

2. unable to be independent without the other-half

3. to maintain the romance when being miles apart.

Let us begin with the first one. TRUST.

It is a simple word with a deep meaning. All about love is trust. To trust someone and to earn the trust at the same time. Trust is not easy but is never impossible. To trust someone, you need to be someone that could be trusted first. If you can't , then why are we talking about trust in the first place ?

You have to be honest & sincere to the relationship you are willing to commit. It would be nice to tell the other-half your where-abouts , what you're doing or are you planning to do, with whom you're going out with and etc. It may sound silly , as if you were controlled by a control-freak but it really helps. Being far is difficult, why making it worst?

Slowly the trust would build-up , the other-half would not worry much of being apart from you. Trust issue would not be a big hassle if both partners are sincere & open to each other. Another important rule is, do NOT do the things you hate behind your partner. You wouldn't want to mess with karma would u..

second issue - Unable to be independent without the other half.

Especially when they were used to having the other-half around them, and got distant unexpectedly. It is difficult to adjust when you used to do everything together.

Go to class together. Go lunch & /or dinner together. Study together. Shop together. Do chores together. Meet friends together. e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g is t-o-g-e-t-h-e-r. Like soulmates. Also, being near would enable them to talk to the phone for hours without worrying of the bills much.

And when they suddenly go miles apart, they would feel lost, teared apart & the colorful world turned black. All soppy, overemotional, hopeless & depressed.

Be independent is another difficult advice to convey. It is subjective and it is all in the mind. If you want to be independent, you will be independent ! Just decide to be independent, and your body will react to it. It takes time to adjust, but it is possible to achieve.

Who say it is impossible to be together when both are at distant? You could shop online together, study infront of the webcam together and talk via skype or any messengers. If you loved someone dearly, you will try to stop complaining, and try your best to adapt to it.

Lastly, to mantain the romance when being miles apart. You have to be creative with this one. Whether is it a guy or a girl. Some ideas I could think of would be :-

• Giving gifts via post. Nowadays, they have all kind of websites that deliver gifts and cards. Payments could be done by credit/cash card. It is very easy. Giving gifts to your loved ones are possible even being miles away.
• Seek favor from your mother, sister, brother or friend to get you something and deliver to your other-half if you are lazy to enter the website.
• Post a card to the house on special occasion
• Send an e-card everytime u miss him/her.
• Send a postcard if you went travelling and share the details of the place you have visited.
• Log-in to Google World or something, I forgot. And travel the world together. It is really cool I've done this with my girlfriends, 3 of us. one in japan, one in india and the other in malaysia. We visited our friend in japan via Google. but we got lost in India..Pfft..
• Shop online together. Ask the other half for opinion before getting the stuff you are planning to get.
• Plan a surprise party for boyfriend with his friends or your friends without him knowing. And ask them to switch on the webcamera so that you could join the celebration from distant. This allows you to celebrate together. You had planned for the celebration and "joined" in too ! Your partner would be touched with this one , I'm sure ! (and viceversa)
• Making international calls are expensive. But do have a one-minute conversation. A brief, short and sweet one.
• Make a surprise arrival back to hometown =) erm, this can be exciting and dangerous too. hehe..

I can't think of more. what do you think of LDR ? and it would be great if you could share any ideas you have in mind !